Happiness: A Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, i.e. REBT, Approach
By Gunars K. Neiders, Ph.D.

( A not yet moribund, but slowly, oh so very slowly, evolving work)


Psychologist Abraham Maslow, at the end of his days, started to focus on the psychology of happiness. Psychologist Albert Ellis did him one better. Early on in his career he became a rational hedonist, espousing enlightened self-interest. He is the founder of Rational Emotive Therapy, RET, which later became Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, REBT. Cognitive Therapy/Psychology has really caught on in the past few decades and REBT is the original Cognitive Therapy/Psychology.

Dr. Ellis, still alive, kicking, productive, and full of life, is the guiding spirit of the Institute of Rational Emotive Therapy. Of course, he also holds a couple titles at the Institute, but his main contributions are his ideas and guidance.

This work in progress is based heavily upon REBT, but the interpretation of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy presented here is mine. Neither Dr. Ellis nor any of his cohorts have reviewed it, let alone passed a judgment on it. Nevertheless, I strongly feel it to be in the mainstream of REBT.

Like Ellis, I have been immensely influenced by philosophers: Stoics, Epricureans, Existentialists ( especially Camus ), and Bertrand Russel. My other influences have been authors like Erich Maria Remarque, Turgenev, Latvian author Aleksndrs Grins, and the philosophers of science, especially Karl Popper and Carnap. But on to the rest of the page...

"The key to happiness is accepting one unpleasant reality every day."

 					    -Bertrand Russel

"Strive to develop the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference."  

                -A saying originally coined by a Taoist monk, popularized
                 by Reinhold Niebuhr, adopted by AA, and paraphrased by
                 Gunars Neiders.

"Each one of us sculpts his own happiness and 'The Meaning of Life'. Life is too serious to be taken too seriously."

                                            -Gunars Neiders

"What disturbs people's minds are not events but their judgements on events."

                                            -Epictetus 500 B.C.

"The road is always better than the inn."


"'Self-esteem' (as contrasted to 'self-acceptance'), 'perfectionism', 'short-range hedonism', consumerism, self-pity, guilt, and shame may well be the core diseases of our culture and mankind, in general, causing immeasurable, unnecessary misery. (A curious historical note: Self-esteem was coined by Nathaniel Branden the young paramour Ayn Rand, the undilutedly self-centered capitalist and minor novelist.)

                                            -Gunars Neiders

Welcome to my home page. But first a disclaimer - I cannot say that I have followed my forthcoming advice throughout my life, however, when I did, it surely improved both my attitude and life situation. Most of my work is based upon philosophers and thinkers, Stoics, Epicureans, and Existentialists alike, and Albert Ellis, the founder of REBT ( I like to call it Rational Emotive Behavioral Training instead of Therapy. More about REBT can be learned from the web-site http://www.rebt.org ). My approach to life, unlike that of "True Believers", is scientific, logical, and evolutionary. The man who thinks the same at the age of sixty as he did at twenty, has wasted fourty years learning nothing.

Without further ado, you may go to:

Part I: Journal ( evolving )                                                             
Part II: Meaning of Life ( evolving )
Part III: Decision to Be Happy ( evolving )
Part IV: Theory and Practice of REBT ( evolving ) - Disscussion of 
        various views.  
Part V: Handling Special Problems - Such as Stuttering ( evolving )
Part VI: General Rules ( evolving )
Part VII: Various Curious Exercises ( evolving )
Part VIII: Rational Parables ( evolving )
Part IX: Speech Samples

Aficionados of REBT, self-styled critics, those who have questions, etc. may reach me by e-mail at:


My message phone is (425)-271-0752

Accesses made to this page since 11/11/96

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Copyright © Gunars K. Neiders, PhD. 1996